Sunday, October 26, 2008

Train your temper

when you get mad, steps on how to control it

1. Take a break from the situation. If you're in an argument with someone, go to another part of your house. Your room or the backyard are good choices. Just say, "I want to be alone for a while so I can calm down."
2. Put yourself in a timeout. If you're feeling angry and think you need a timeout to calm down, don't wait for a parent to tell you — go ahead and take a timeout for yourself. Let your family know that when you're taking a timeout, they need to respect your space and leave you alone to calm yourself down. For kids old enough to do it for themselves, a timeout isn't a punishment: It's a cool-down. While you're sitting in your timeout chair, try this cool-down exercise: Put your hands under the seat of the chair and pull up while you count to 5. Then stretch your arms over your head. Take a nice deep breath and let it out. One kid who tried these steps said he used this time to think about the consequences — like getting in trouble if he let his temper go wild.
3. Get the anger out. We don't want you punching walls (or even punching pillows), but why not do a bunch of jumping jacks or dance around your room to your favorite music? Turn it up a little. If you go outside, run around or do cartwheels across the lawn. You also could pick up your pen and write it all down. What made you so upset? Keep writing until you've covered everything. If you don't like writing, just draw a picture that helps you express your feelings. Use strong colors and strong lines to show your strong feelings. You also can try the "Be a Volcano" exercise.
4. Learn to shift. You'll have to work hard to do this. This is where you get that puppy under control. The idea is to shift from a really angry mood to a more in-control mood. After you get some of the angry feelings out, you have to start thinking about other things. Sometimes, when people are angry, they're not really thinking clearly. They're just mad, mad, mad. Only angry thoughts are flying around their brains. A person might even say mean things to himself or herself, like "I'm such an idiot. I lost my temper again!" But you can replace those thoughts with better ones. For instance, you can say, "I lost my temper, but I'm going to get myself under control now." Instead of thinking of the person or situation you're angry with, think of something else. Think of something that will put you in a better mood.

How to Talk So People Will Listen

1. Stop talking
When someone talks incessantly, the listener naturally wants to tune out. Listening is an energy draining process, so forcing people to listen for long periods of time can wear them out. To motivate others, especially if you are the boss or key figure in a negotiation, be quiet and listen to others in order to discover what they are thinking. Stop talking long enough to capture the entire essence of what the other person is saying. Listen for the value the other person wants to add and incorporate that into your response.

2. Get to the point
Effective communicators don’t beat around the bush. They make their points clearly and accurately. To do so, start with a single sentence that notes your positive intent. Next, state the overall goal. Once you make your suggestion for action, follow it up with justifications. Often, but not always, ask for feedback on the idea and allow for brainstorming. Summarize all decisions and each person’s role with dated, specific, and measurable commitments.

3. Take a presentation skills class
By brushing up on your speaking skills, you can “even the playing field” with those successful but less talented colleagues who got where they are because of their excellent oratory skills. Most accomplished speakers take a class or review a book on presentation skills every few years to become more confident, persuasive, and effective.

4. Keep your tone neutral
During every conversation, speak to others as you want them to speak to you. Avoid sarcasm and other hostile behaviors. When you routinely humiliate, berate, or poke fun at others, they won’t listen to much of what you say or go the extra mile for you. Speak loud enough so that no one must strain to hear you, and speak with authority, so you’ll be perceived as more credible. As far as what to say, always remember to praise in public and criticize in private, each time addressing the behavior itself and not the person’s personality.

5. Reduce your speaking accent
When listening to someone who has a thick accent, people routinely miss 10-30 percent of what is said. If you are completely fluent in English but still have people asking you to repeat yourself, taking a presentation skills class that focuses on accent reduction is a wise career move. It’s your job as the speaker to be a clear communicator, especially since others won’t work to understand you. Additionally, listeners can become embarrassed when they have to continually ask you to repeat yourself. Instead, very often they’ll nod and smile, and then ask each other afterward, “What are we supposed to do?” But there is no reason to lose your accent entirely, as a charming accent differentiates you from the group and is part of your persona. However, with information and videotaped training, even a couple of days of coaching can improve comprehension by 80 percent.

Being an effective communicator is the best way to get others to listen to what you say. Since few people enjoy repeating themselves multiple times or the resulting consequences of not getting important messages understood, improve your communication skills so that listening is not a burden for others. The result will be that listeners will hear and comprehend you each time you speak.

Design own t-shirt

Craft Knife, Image print outs, Thin clear PVC sheet, silk screen, squeegee, t-shirt paint, hair dryer, Spray Adhesive, Cutting mat, baking paper, iron, MDF/Timber panel t-shirt template.

Time: <90 minutes

1) Design and print out your graphics.
2) Spray adhesive the back of your print outs and stick to the PVC sheeting,
3) Cut out your graphics from the PVC sheeting
4) Spray Adhesive the back of the PVC sheeting
5) Place tshirt template/cardboard inside tee to keep it flat
6) Place and position your PVC sheet with graphics cut out.
7) Press it down and paint it up! Or silk screen the paint through
8) Carefully remove the PVC sheet
9) Hair dry until touch dry
10) Put baking paper over the painted graphics and iron it up!
11) Clean your PVC sheet for possible future use and store
12) Put your tee on, go out and feel proud of what you just achieved :)

Lessons & tips:
From a sheet of timber/MDF trace your t-shirt size on to it and cut it out. this is handy to put inside your tee when you position your graphics, keeps your t-shirt flat and easier to paint!

Takes a small bit of practice - using too much spray adhesive makes it more difficult to remove the PVC sheet.

tony hawk ..legendary skatboarders

Professional skateboarder Anthony Frank "Tony" Hawk was born on May 12, 1968, in Carlsbad, California, and is considered to be the most triumphant and prominent pioneers in vertical skateboarding. With his nickname the "Birdman," Tony has been a professional skateboarder since he was 15, and he is the first person in skateboarding history to pull off a 900. He has won six gold medals for skateboarding in the ESPN X-Games and is considered to be the best Pro in skateboarding history, entering 103 contests, winning 73 of them and placing second in 19. In 2000, he published his autobiography "Hawk: Occupation Skateboarder," and he has a video game series named after him. Besides skateboarding, he also has appeared in the films "The New Guy," "Haggard: The Movie" and "The Lords Of Dogtown," and has his own radio show on Sirius Satellite radio channel 28 Faction called "Tony Hawk's Demolition Radio." Tony has been married three times, and he has three sons Spencer, Keegen and Riley.
When Tony Hawk entered the professional skateboarding circuit in 1982 at the age of 14, few people in the world of extreme sports would have guessed he would become an icon; however, Hawk's decision to quit playing baseball -- which, considering his father's position as the president of his Little League chapter, was no easy choice -- ultimately landed Hawk at the top of the sport and allowed him to "retire" in 1999 at the ripe old age of 31. As Hawk rapidly gained credibility among his peers in the sport, he also received no small amount of attention from television and video producers. Interestingly enough, Hawk appeared as an extra (skateboarding, of course) in Police Academy 4: Citizens on Patrol in 1997; more importantly, however, his skill helped put the X Games into the mainstream. In addition to a wide variety of Hawk-inspired video games, the athlete has made countless appearances on ESPN and was featured in over 50 skateboarding documentaries and instructional titles during the '80s and '90s. Along the way, he became somewhat of a pop culture icon. MTV's Diary series featured Hawk as one of its subjects, and he was voted Best Male Athlete of the Year at the Nickelodeon Kids' Choice Awards, beating out other famous sports figures including Tiger Woods and basketball star Shaquille O'Neal. In 2002, Hawk appeared alongside fellow skateboarder Bam Margera in Jackass: The Movie, and later that year could be seen in XXX with Vin Diesel. In 2004, Hawk hosted Tony Hawk's Secret Skatepark Tour, which chronicled his surprise appearances at skateparks throughout the United States.

blue whale

blue whale, a baleen whale, Balaenoptera musculus. Also called the sulphur-bottom whale and Sibbald's rorqual, it is the largest animal that has ever lived. Blue whales have been known to reach a length of 100 ft (30.5 m) and to weigh as much as 120 tons; average length is about 75 ft (23 m). The blue whale is slate blue in color and has a dorsal fin. It is toothless and has fringed baleen, or whalebone, plates in its mouth, which act as a food strainer. As water is expelled from the whale's mouth, plankton is trapped behind the strainer. The neck of the blue whale has 80 to 100 conspicuous furrows called ventral grooves, which alternately expand and contract as the animal takes in and expels water. The blue whale is cosmopolitan in distribution. In summer it inhabits polar seas, feeding in the water of melting icepacks; in winter it migrates to warmer latitudes, occasionally reaching the equator. Mating occurs at the end of winter, with a single calf born every second or third year, after a gestation period of 10 to 11 months. The calf is nursed for 6 months and reaches puberty in about 3 years. Blue whales may live 100 years or more. Because of extensive whaling, their numbers have been reduced from an estimated 400,000 to about 12,000, and they are listed as endangered. They are classified in the phylum Chordata, subphylum Vertebrata, class Mammalia, order Cetacea, family Balaenopteridae

Tips for Oily skin condition.

1. Wash skin with plenty of warm water (2-3 times a day) and mild soap or herbal scrub to prevent clogging of pores.

2. Avoid using harsh chemicals to remove oil, as some amount of natural oil is needed to maintain the texture of skin.

3. Avoid too much washing of skin as it leads to overproduction of oil to compensate the loss.

4. Always use hot water to wash face as it dissolves clogged oil and also balances Kapha.

5. Use a moisturizer, free of oil.

6. Avoid sticky make up, which clogs the pores.

7. Apply half spoon of lemon juice mixed with half spoon of cucumber juice to face half an hour before taking bath.

8. To clear away excess oil, use herbal pack, which contains herbs that normalize kapha and lessens excess oil secretion.

9. Mix equal parts of lemon juice and water. Apply this mixture on face and rinse it first with warm water and then followed by cold water after it dries.

10. Avoid heavy, fried fatty food.

11. Avoid cheese and sugar rich deserts.

12. Consume light, well-spiced food as they balance kapha.

13. Avoid constipating foods.

14. Include ginger, pepper, and long pepper in diet.

15. Exercise regularly.

16. Take plenty of leafy green vegetables and fresh fruits.

17. Massaging whole body with herbal oil rejuvenates the body and skin.

18. Use ayurvedic body cleansers, which expel body toxins.

19. Avoid excessive consumption of soft drinks, alcohol, tea, coffee and chocolates.

Hip-hop style from the perspective of rapper Moe of W.A.F.

Hip-hop fashion is full of different colors, styles, and creativity. In the hip-hop world this is called flavor. To have flavor, you have to have the latest fashion.

Footwear ranges from the ever popular Nikes, to Timberland, and the latest fashion of Wallabee Clarks. The demand for the latest sneakers is so great that they even have a release date on the most popular ones. No matter the price, people are going to buy it to be on the point. Timberland are the most common footwear in the hip-hop community. They come in different flavors to coincide with your clothes. You can wear them with anything from shorts to khakis.

Now hip-hop gear comes in a wide variety. The big names like Versace, Tommy Hilfiger, Polo by Ralph Lauren, Nautica and Guess are the best known. If you don't wear what everyone else is wearing, you'll be considered a bama. A bama is a southern word meaning "from the backwoods," or uncool-- it's someone who can't dress.

Nowadays fashion is based on who is talking about what he wears in a video. Rappers like Jay-Z, and the late Notorious B.I.G. talked about Versace in their rhymes. Just mentioning the name on their albums or whenever the rhyme is like advertisement. I wouldn't be surprised if they were getting paid for it. Tommy Hilfiger is also represented fully by artists such as Raekwan and Ghostface from the Wu-tang Klan. They also put the Wallabee Clarks up on popular demand.